Life After The Tick
Something I have been thinking about for a while has been to talk about my experiences with ADHD online. After a productive group tutorial last week, I decided to bite the bullet today and set up an Instagram account and website. I called them Life After The Tick, in reference to the piece of paper we received at Joe's diagnosis, with one little tick in a box.
The utter relief and renewal of self-worth I got from that tick was incredibly powerful. It was a validation of the many concerns I have had over the years, concerns that have often been dismissed by professionals who, for one reason or another, couldn't recognise that the behaviours being displayed by my son weren't simply 'naughty' or attention-seeking. The tick took away the guilt I had carried around for years that his behaviours were my fault. It also gave him something resembling an explanation as to why he finds life more of a challenge that his friends - he actually couldn't wait to go back to school and tell everyone about his super-fast brain!
I felt very alone for a long time because no one could see what I could: a little boy who was struggling to get through the day without losing control of his body and his actions. Getting an official NHS diagnosis has given me some back-up - there are now people who will listen and help us to figure out where to go from here.
The diagnosis is the beginning of the next stage in Joe's development, so it seemed like a good time for me to start sharing my story with others. Hopefully it might help another parent out there feeling equally as alone and frustrated as I did.